I used to be a hero. That sounds conceited. [Read more…]
Rick Hanson, Ph.D, who wrote Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love & Wisdom, says our brains are designed to scan for danger. When we see something to worry about, the negative information makes a big impression and we’re more likely to be affected by it, because that’s going to help us stay alive. Positive information, on the other hand, isn’t so sticky.
Blue sky, big deal. Saber-toothed cat? BIG deal.
To make matters worse, our fast-paced, information overload-culture increases the amount of scanning our brains do. So we’re constantly gathering more and more negative data.
And we’re stressing the hell out!
On the one hand, it’s kind of cool to think that my brain has a good reason for focusing on the negative. (And here I thought it was just me.) I appreciate the evolutionary necessity of this tendency.
But now that we understand why it’s happening, we can perceive some of our anxiety as an unreliable narrator wringing her hands. Just because the murder rate went up in Texas last year doesn’t mean I have more reason to fear.
Tell your inner worrier to chill.
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As we Boomers stare into the 7x magnifying mirror, trying not to stab ourselves in the eye with the mascara wand and bemoaning the crevasses in our skin, we should remember there’s some compensation for getting old. [Read more…]
My friend Nanci just retired from a career in public education, first as an elementary school teacher and then as principal. We met in the eighties when we worked for the Jurupa Unified School District in Riverside, California. Here’s what Nanci did to kick-start her retirement:
Nanci, thanks for sharing your experience with us. You always did set the bar high, for yourself first and then your staff and students. All of your friends at Any Shiny Thing wish you a joyous retirement. Looks like you’re off to a flying start.
If you want to get a roomful of chatter, bring up the term MILF with your girlfriends. For those of you who are still sweetly unaware, it’s a grade men give women based on the latter’s sexuality. It stands for “Mothers I’d Like to F….”
Here’s what my friends say:
- Who gives a F who you’d like to F?
- Why single out mothers?
MILF implies that the default setting is that mothers are un-F-able, unless they earn the prized designation of MILF. Then, oh baby, then they rate. Woo hoo. Winner.
My girls recommend we retire the MILF award and start handing out MWDH.
Men Who Do Housework*
Now, that’s sexy.
*Apologies to DRM and WFS, both of whom totally win this prize.
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