I need your help with something. When a woman says, “I don’t care for women friends. I prefer men,” it gets my back up, and I don’t know if it’s because I’m insecure (yeah, probably) or overly sensitive (yup) or if there’s even more to it. Nevertheless,
I feel so rejected.
Here are the possibilities that run through my mind:
- She’s been burned by women friends.
- She doesn’t dig the estrogen thing and feels more comfortable with men.
- She perceives women to be on the losing team and wants to hang with the perceived winners.
I’m probably revealing more of my inner workings than I want you to know. But how can you dismiss half the human race that way? And your own gender!
Of course, generalities are often based in truth, at least to some extent. For example, here’s one:
“I hate working with all-women.”
Don’t ding me for grammar. That’s how we say it, the old complaint about women working together being a real pain, more so than a mostly-male workplace. I used to object to it, but now as an old broad I think there’s some truth to it, because women tend to fall harder and faster for each other, and then when the initial glow fades, they feel more rejected. Also, our womanly warfare techniques, more suited for brain than brawn, are more sneaky, snarky, and cutting.
Well, you work with whatcha got.
But back to my point. Are you a woman who subscribes to this preference for guy friends, and if so, why do you think that is?
How do you feel when a woman tells you she prefers men friends over women?
Let me know. Help me learn.