Am I too old for this? Should women over X wear Y?
Do you ever see such questions directed at men? But it’s too early in the post for me to start digressing.
Why are we still trying to be The Good Girl? Haven’t we outgrown the need for approval from that anonymous authority, They? As in, “They say you shouldn’t wear shimmery eye shadow after forty.” Or, “They say a woman over fifty should never wear shorts.”
In this article, a woman wonders if it’s still okay for her to want to wear sparkly things, at her age. She says:
I want to sparkle…just a bit.
Isn’t that OK? Does it really matter how silly a middle-aged woman may look with sparkles on her backside?
I took it to Twitter a few weeks ago and threw it out there…
When is a woman too old for bling on her back pockets?
I’m wondering when does a woman get too old to let people tell her what to wear. Here’s what They said on Twitter:
If she has to ask, she probably already knows the answer.
I understand the desire to look appropriate. You wouldn’t wear torn jeans to a wedding, or a see-through blouse to a job interview. But when it comes to age, any article questioning whether we’re too old for a certain style annoys me, because it implies there’s an authority to whom we owe obedience. Really, at this age? Listen, if I have to live with the wrinkles-and-turkey-neck thing, I need compensation, and compensation in the form of bucking authority sounds good to me.
It does take a certain amount of self-confidence to wear what you like, public opinion be damned. For me, it’s a little hard to wear flashy costume jewelry and scarves on an everyday basis, but it’s either that or I’m going to donate them to the Goodwill.
These days, I try to resist being told what to do. If at all possible, I make up my own mind, now that I know what it is. Besides, I’ve worked too hard over lo these many years to develop a backbone, and I like the feel of it.
A couple of my friends blog about fashion for women who love being over fifty. They’re excited about creating a brand new style for themselves. One is Donna Pekar at Rock the Silver, and another is Lisa at Privilege. Here is Lisa, below, and I think you’ll agree she personifies the type of woman who would never allow anyone to dictate fashion to her.
Especially not with those shitkickers on.