I happen to think my appearance should only matter if I personally care about it, and not because society says I should look as hot as possible until I die, because otherwise you are worthless.
So anyway, I was over at Boomer Cafe where a 50+ woman wrote about learning to accept the changes that the years have etched on her body, and as long as she feels happy and healthy, she’s not going to worry about how she looks, and one reader commented “…and YOU LOOK GREAT!” Thereby negating her entire brave speech.
I guess the complimenter meant it non-ironically.
At least it was well-intended. I hate when they tell you that you look great for your age.
But the point was, our looks shouldn’t matter, and this becomes even more important as we age. If you’re happy and you feel good, that should be enough. I’m not saying we shouldn’t compliment each other on our looks, but as you get older, it’s more fraught. Tell a person she looks great and leave it at that.
Here’s another example of people saying stupid stuff: I was reading a Boomerblog that was all about how to land a guy. (No, it’s just research. But thanks for asking). Readers were advised to play the field, because if a man finds out you’re only dating him, he’ll be less interested. If he sees a lot of other men are after you, he’ll want you more. (My husband, a former car dealer, calls this the “Take-Away Close”. As in, you can close the deal with a buyer if you can make him think that somebody else wants the car under consideration.)
But anyway, I was thinking, How Junior High! So I commented on the blog: “No offense, but that sounds like too much trouble. If I ended up alone I think I’d try to learn how to be happy living by myself.”
The author wrote back, in essence, “Cool! More for us.”
That kind of bothered me.
What about you? What dumb comments about life have you run into lately? Spill it, Sister.